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imperfectfairytale:

mynamesjustanoose:

magnolius:

A Tale Of Two Hoodies - a controversial painting by artist/activist Michael D’Antuono. 

Inspired by the Trayvon Martin case, this painting symbolizes the travesty of racially profiling innocent children and how present day prejudices affect policy.

This.

Wow :’(

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face-down-asgard-up:

nova-bright:

face-down-asgard-up:

So, can I tell you why this bugs me? Don’t get me wrong, I think love and enduring love especially are amazing things. And, yes, for a relationship to work for a long time you have to put in a lot of work. On the surface, this is a touching and lovely thing. But allow me and my emotional baggage to rant for a moment:

I’m divorced. My parents are divorced. For our situations, divorce was the best option. You can’t fix a relationship if the other person has already given up and walked away. When I see this quote, I get a little edgy because it feels like people are saying you shouldn’t ever throw away a broken relationship.

Often times, you have to. A broken or toxic relationship can really harm you if you continue to try and save it. There’s no shame in that. There’s no shame in saying, “I tried. It didn’t work and now I have to think about me and my future.”

I also have a lot of feelings about the history of the institution of marriage and how it’s viewed by society as the ultimate in an expression of love and commitment. It’s a legal contract. That’s really all it is. For some people, that contract can be great. For others, it can be really damaging. Again, I see no shame in realizing the legal contract you entered in to isn’t working and terminating it. If that’s what you need to do in order to live better, then do it.

I don’t know. For someone who has been through a divorce, I get kind of tired of society’s assumption that it’s an easy out. It’s not easy. It’s not easy emotionally, mentally, financially. It’s not something you just do. “Oh hey you know I was cool with being married but now I am kinda bored. Think I’ll just go get a divorce!” It almost never happens that way. Making the decision to get a divorce is hard and it hurts. It’s so very far from easy.

I also don’t think long-term committed relationships are the ultimate end goal for every one. I think for a lot of us there will be several people that we love and love passionately. But just because those relationships don’t last for decades doesn’t mean they weren’t important and amazing and wonderful. It doesn’t mean someone gave up along the way. It just means those relationships ran their course and the individuals involved can move on, be happy, and still appreciate that period of time with the other person.

FEELS. I just have a lot of feels, ok?

My grandparents on my father’s side got divorced in 1955. My great grandparents on my mother’s side got divorced soon after WWII.

In both cases the people involved and their children were the better for it.

If a relationship is breaking down, staying together can be actively harmful for everyone involved. There should be no shame in divorce. It is not a weakness or failure, simply an end. And I have no time for the nostalgia of ‘simpler times when everyone stayed together for life’ because I know too many honest older people and too many tales of abusive spouses that there was little to no societal escape from.

^ Exactly.

I’m not at all nostalgic for the times when to get a divorce was to sign up to be a social pariah. I’m not at all nostalgic for the times when marriage was the only way for a woman to survive financially. I’m not at all nostalgic for times when spousal abuse was swept under the rug, hidden, and not talked about because the idea of the marriage failing was too much of a scandal.

I think we’re still carrying a lot of baggage from those times and we’re still trying to shake off the idea that marriage is something you should never ever fail at.

Everyone has said it so much better than me. I am divorced and for the longest time, I felt like a failure because society has made it seem that if you get divorced, you have given up on your marriage and you’re a horrible person. I’m still dealing with the abuse I received from my ex apart from other things that those years triggered. Marriage isn’t perfect and no matter how hard you try, if the person you’re married to doesn’t want to make it work, it won’t.

It sucks being told that you have to “fix it”. What if you can’t and you’re getting physically abused? Should that be a reason to stay in a marriage? So you won’t have that label? I was so scared of being “divorced. I was scared of the stigma I thought I was going to receive but I haven’t, which is surprising. Marriages can suck and if you have a partner that is willing to work through it, then yeah, you can try to fix it. But it’s not an obligation. I hope I’m being coherent. I’ve only been divorced like eight months and. Smarter people have already commented on this.

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faerieeglow:

won’t ever not reblog this

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thisgingersnapsback:

ENJOY TUMBLR

AND GOODNIGHT

thisgingersnapsback:

tlatophat:

ofcatsandkings:

tlatophat:

Reblogging because it’s true for me…  except for the foreign music thing.  I like foreign music.

this

makes me

so sad

I am not a freak goddammit.

Fuck off.

You’re right.  You’re not a freak, and I apologize if that’s what you take away from this.  Let me clarify.  I don’t hate any one.  I don’t.  For me, this is not a statement of bias.  This is who I am.  I am a white, successful, heterosexual male. My point in posting this is, as the notes on this image indicate, my demographic gets a lot of hate whenever we decide to actually declare we’re proud to be what we are.  I don’t think any of the characteristics in the list are ‘bad’ traits.  Variety is the spice of life!  But look at the notes on this image and then compare this to a “I’m gay and proud” or “I’m black and proud” message.  It seems the only people who are not allowed to be proud of who they are are white, successful, christian, heterosexuals.

Please, Tumblr, remember that we are people just like you.  Most of us aren’t the bad guys people seem to think we are.  I’m proud to be a white, successful, christian, heterosexual; not because that makes me better than others (it doesn’t), but because that’s who I am.  Just like you should be proud to be whatever you are.

Oh this is by far my favourite.

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